Spiraling Outwards
what…can’t….look away….

what…can’t….look away….



"we almost dated" is such a weird relationship to have with someone

Plus the sequel “we never got closure”

And then the side adaptation “as a result I have a weird crush that never died”

Our Boundaries


A few people have asked about our boundaries lately, and so here they are. These are our personal boundaries at the moment.

1- We are fluid bonded and condoms are always to be used with others.
2- Our sex toys are ours and not to be used with others. If we want a toy to use with others we will buy it specifically for usage with other partners, and employ the usage of protection (such as a condom) on the toy(s) as well as proper washing afterwards.
3- Our bed is our bed and there will be no playing in it with other partners unless we are both involved. There are plenty of other places for solo playing with others.
4- Neither one of us has sex with a new partner without discussing it with each other and both being comfortable with the new sexual partner beforehand.

This last one is not a hard boundary, but since it has been a huge success in the past for us we believe it is very useful for us.

5 - This is speaking about the new person who we plan on going on a date with each other beforehand and introducing them early. For us we have learned that doing this personally eases our fears and insecurities by a noticeable margin.

As you can probably tell from our boundaries, the vast majority of them involve safer sex practices, with the rest involving communication between each other and keeping us in the loop of knowing what is going on.

My Dearest and I could have written this, these are our exact boundaries. :)

aaaannnnd now she’s starting up some bullshit with me over something super trivial but apparently “needs time to talk about it in person” just like eeerrrrry other thing. (No they’ve not broken up yet but this shit’s about to get expedited.)




oh blergh!




The most fun a poor art history major can have without selling their soul for the ability to travel the world. 

Google maps lets you go in places now: Musee d’Orsay, The Met, Versailles, all of the places above, and tons more. I am pleased. 



WHAT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Why does their relationship have to have a goal or direction? Is an "end goal" necessary when there isn't definite timeline to follow relationship wise?

That *would* be okay if directionless was what was actually going on. She *says* that’s okay, but over and over again she’s made it clear that she wants him to be a serious boyfriend. When he cannot meet that desire for her (because of his limited amount of time as well as his lack of serious feelings for her), it causes problems. And those problems spill into my life when she creates drama with me in response to him not being the kind of partner she wants. So yeah…. there’s a serious compatibility issue going on here.

jeneepooh said: So what happens next? Has or will he end it?

He’s going to next time they talk. Seemed awful to call her back at 1am after they’d already spoken, and last night we needed a good night between the two of us, no drama.

He’s admitted several times since that I was right, and he sucks at breaking up with people. My sweet man, he wants to be everything everyone wants him to be… except he can’t and it’s bad for him and us. I hope it changes, I can’t always be the bad guy.


The international womens day event I attended had some really cissexist bullshit there so I made a passive aggressive Statement


The international womens day event I attended had some really cissexist bullshit there so I made a passive aggressive Statement

The Veto

I never though I’d have to do it. In fact, I’d sworn off this concept of “veto power” in our relationship. Why would we need it? We see eye to eye on everything. We can just communicate openly and honestly and come to the same conclusion. Right?

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